"I Love YOU"
"I Love YOU A LOT"
Thoughts and words make up the fabric of our lives.
After my son was born I decided to consciously choose words and phrases that were foreign to my daily life. I admired seeing them expressed in the pretend families on T.V. when I was growing up.
I consciously practiced hearing myself say them and getting comfortable with forming the words in my mouth.
Seeing myself say them in the mirror with a relaxed face, visualizing them, and then receiving the emotional weight of them into my heart.
Initially, the weight was uncomfortable so I tried to avoid the new feeling even dismissing the slow opening of my heart and vulnerability as not important, even though I knew that wasn’t the truth.
These were new words and new behaviours and they didn't come easy, at times I
was ready to abandon my own personal transformation.
Maybe for you, you will have other words and phrases that take you completely out of your EMOTIONAL COMFORT ZONE like "I forgive you", "I apologize", "I am sorry"', "I miss you", "I am thinking of you", "no, I am not available right now."
Expressing yourself in this way challenges the ego and our fear of rejection.
I learned and you may learn
this too that it makes us feel vulnerable and exposed to forms of judgment and criticism by others. And sometimes even from ourselves.
But it also helps us find the strength to be the very best of who we are with no excuses for other people’s BS and the limits they impose on our lives.
The FEELING experience for me was all of the above...but I wanted to teach my son a new culture in our home and expose him to new love languages even though it was not part of my environment growing up.
I made a choice, one that challenged my old emotions and patterns, which didn't want me to change at that moment.
This could be the same inner struggle(s) that you may or may not experience once you make that choice to CHANGE your old emotions and patterns of responding.
Your new responses will help you embark on a new way of doing things in your life, a completely different path that you didn’t even know existed.
Chart your course, determine the why and where you're going. This will keep you encouraged and motivated if discouragement shows up to distract you as it did for me.
Then allow the new uncomfortable transformation to take place, similar to a caterpillar becoming a butterfly. WAIT...just
wait.
Go within to nurture and protect your new way of responding and thinking, and wait for the right time to emerge. To match the very Best of who you are with the very Best of how you behave, think, and navigate yourself in the world.
You will learn that YOU HAVE SO MUCH MORE POTENTIAL THAN YOU GIVE YOURSELF CREDIT FOR!
"I LOVE YOU!
“I LOVE YOU... I LOVE YOU LOTS, AND LOTS, AND LOTS, AND LOTS!"
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